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How is Your Relationship With Yourself

is your self esteem holding you back?

4 questions to help you determine if your self esteem is putting a lid on your personal and professional growth?

Most people realise your ability to relate to others positively and productively will directly impact your ability to grow personally and professionally. But, there is one relationship that many never give attention to, and it is the #1 relationship that can become the barrier to your personal and leadership success…

It is: your relationship with yourself…

John Maxwell puts it this way: The only continual relationship in your life is your relationship with yourself…

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How you view yourself (your self-esteem) will inform the way others view and treat you. Whether you value yourself or not will affect the level to which others value you. If you don’t believe that you deserve success and growth in your chosen field, then there is no reason to expect anyone else will.

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See, it works like this… Your self esteem will inform the thoughts you have about yourself, about your circumstances, about your setback and about the way other people treat you. Those thoughts will over time (if they haven’t already) become beliefs.

Your beliefs will in turn inform your attitude, your resilience and become the filter by which you experience life.

These beliefs will in turn affect your actions. The way you react to situations, the way you talk to others, the decisions you make and your willingness to take chances for your next steps in growth.

Do you see how that works? The way you love and accept yourself will influence how you think. The way you think will influence what you believe. What you believe will determine the kinds of actions you take. Your actions will determine your growth.

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So how do you know if you need to work on your relationship with yourself? Well the easy answer is; we all do. Everyone of us battles with self doubt, negative self talk and unresolved pain from the past. But to give you something practical, try asking yourself these question…

1. How’s Your Self Talk?

How do you speak to yourself when you make a mistake or fail? Are you able to talk yourself through disappointment or do you start beating yourself up and calling yourself an idiot?

Take action: Start catching yourself out when you run yourself down. Develop a habit of changing your self talk and begin working on new ways of talking to yourself when you make a mistake or fail. Encourage yourself and be kind to yourself when you screw up. We all do… An easy rule of thumb is; if you wouldn’t talk to someone you love like that, then don’t talk to yourself like that…

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2. Where Does it Hurt?

Matt Keller  suggests that your leadership will be capped at the level of your willingness to deal with past pain and hurt… If your self-esteem and the way you think about yourself is linked to past unresolved hurt, disappointment or loss; start by addressing that.

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Take action: I don’t know where you’re at or how deep those issues go, maybe you need professional help to address the hurt or perhaps you just need to get something off your chest. Just remember; burying or ignoring matters of the heart will not resolve the pain and it’s effect. It will only postpone it to a time when you have no choice but to deal with it.

3. How is your relationship with others?

If you find yourself in regular conflict with others or feel like the world is against you, it can frequently be an indicator that you are actually unhappy with yourself and are just projecting your self loathing onto the interactions you have with others.

Nit picking or fault finding with others can sometimes be an indication of something you are disappointed with in your own life. Rather than focusing on changing it within, we can often fall into the trap of trying to fix it in others and in the process ignore the disappointment we have with ourselves.

Take action: Next time you feel under fire from or agitated and frustrated with someone else, before reacting take a pause. Ask yourself if what they are doing is really the cause of your frustration and hurt or if there’s something else within that you are ignoring. Take the time to assess your own actions, thoughts and intentions. Be honest with yourself and ask if there is anything you can adjust to fix the situation. Conflict is rarely one sided and we always get fast and better results when we turn our attention to fixing our own attitudes and actions before trying to correct others.

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Do I deserve it? 

When you think about the success or goal that you’re trying to achieve, ask yourself this? Do I deserve it? Frequently we can be driven by a desire to achieve big, but underneath it we’re terrified of the thought that we might actually make it… then what?

If you don’t truly believe you deserve the success and the outcomes you are trying to achieve, don’t expect anyone else to help you get there. Sooner or later you will sabotage your own desires to achieve, because deep down you’re scared of what the accomplishment might do to you.

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Take Action: Make peace with your fears and back yourself. Start telling yourself that you do deserve it. When you start believing in yourself, others will naturally gravitate towards you and start believing in you. If you keep telling yourself that you are not worthy or you don’t deserve it, others will pick up on the energy that you live with. You won’t have to tell them, they might not even realise that they have sensed your self doubt, but they will, and your perception of yourself  will become their perception of you.

What to do? 

I’ve already made some suggestions in the previous paragraphs as to how you can start changing your relationship with yourself for the better, but for the sake of you who just scroll to the bottom for the bullet points here are a few more:

  • Measure your wins not your losses. “What gets measured gets done…” John Schnatter
  • Learn to talk yourself up (encourage yourself) don’t run yourself down. publicly or in your head.
  • Stop comparing yourself to others, run your own race.
  • Learn to live with gratitude not complaining
  • Back yourself for the win.

Your turn:

How’s your relationship with yourself? Has this blog been helpful? Share your ahha moment in the comments.

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3 Reasons Why You Need to Discover Your Purpose

IS YOUR LACK OF PUROSE HURTING YOUR POTENTIAL? 3 Reasons why you need to discover and know your purpose.

3 reasons why you need to discover your purpose and what could happen if you don’t.

In 2002, Christian Pastor Rick Warren wrote a book called the Purpose Driven Life. The book immediately went to the bestsellers list, topping the Wall Street Journal and New York Times lists for 90 weeks. It eventually went on to sell over 30 million copies, a feat seldom seen for any motivational type books, let alone a Christian book.

Regardless of your beliefs about faith, there is something about the title of this book that so consumes us as humans and perhaps explains it’s phenomenal success…. purpose.

Everybody at some point asks themselves what the purpose of their life is, yet I meet so many people who simply do not have a clear idea of what it actually is… Their why for doing the things that they do.

Why does PURPOSE matter?  Knowing your purpose is essential to success in your personal and professional life…

Knowing your purpose is essential to success in your personal and professional life… Regardless of what success looks like for you, doing it just for money, or just to pay the bills can be an effective motivator for a time, but sooner or later even these primary drivers lack substance in the long term.

Lets face it, most of us at some point have been in a job for the money or to pay the bills yet we’ve hated every minute of being there… Dreaming of a time that we could be doing something we “truly” love.

Here’s the rub… work without meaning is well just that, work… But the flip side of that is; even the most mundane of jobs when done by someone who believes it is their purpose, can become an insatiable passion…

Work without meaning is well just that, work…

The trouble is; so often we are locked into careers, businesses and jobs that have long since lost their meaning and rather than reaching out towards our full potential and living a life that leaves a legacy for others, we spend our time and energy just running the clock down to a time when we can do something we really love (after we retire)…

Why is the Why so important?

So why is knowing your purpose so important?

1. Knowing your purpose, helps you to make choices and decisions now that will influence and shape the future you are working towards… It’s nice to have goals and dreams, but if we don’t fully understand why we are heading towards that destination, we will not always take the chances or opportunities that lead to our destiny. Competing interests, priorities and other people’s agendas will always crowd out the decision making of a person who does not know their purpose. Knowing your purpose, helps you to make choices now that will shape the future

2. Knowing your purpose will also help you assess if the direction you are heading is actually the best fit for you. Just because you’ve got a dream or a goal to achieve, doesn’t mean it is a good fit for your personality, gifts, and stage of life. Challenging your goals / dreams and asking yourself the hard questions about why you’re chasing them will help you assess the long term viability and satisfaction that they can bring. As the old adage says’ “there is no point reaching the top of the ladder if it’s leaning up against the wrong wall…”

No point reaching the top of the ladder if it’s leaning up against the wrong wall…

3. Knowing our purpose pushes us from our comfort zone. If fear of failure or fear of loss in security are the only whys that drive you, you will always play life safe and will miss the opportunities to grow and stretch to your full potential. Knowing your bigger purpose, the thing that is bigger that your own personal needs or fears will give you the courage to step out beyond your comfort zone. With each step you take outside your comfort zone you will push back the limits and the boundaries of your fear. With each step beyond the safe zone, you will step closer to living in your full potential. Each step you take outside your comfort zone pushes back the limits of your fear.

So what’s your purpose. Your why that keeps you going? I sum my why up like this: To live a life helping others reach their full potential. It’s broad enough to encompass a range of my skill sets and passions but specific enough to help me stay on track with my goals while still pushing me beyond the safe zone of my own selfish fears.

With every opportunity, or decision I make, I ask myself; is this step going to help others reach their full potential? If I can answer yes to that, then it gives me a clearer step forward. Under that I have some more specific whys that relate to my skill set, family desires and personal aspirations, but they are all ultimately framed around this one simple life statement.

My challenge for you: Can you state your life purpose simply and succinctly? Does it give you a why for what you do that is bigger than your own personal feelings or desires?  If not, take some time to think through your purpose. Your why and right it down. Filter all of your activities and aspirations through it and ask yourself “what needs to change, what can stay the same…?”

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6 Steps to Discovering Your Purpose

6 steps to discovering your purpose

So, you know it’s important to know your purpose. But what if you don’t know what it is? How can you discover it?

In my previous post I suggested some reasons why knowing your purpose or “why” is so important to reaching your full potential both personally and professionally. But what if you don’t know what that purpose is? Or you’ve discovered that the purpose that was driving you, needs some reevaluation…what then?

John Maxwell suggested 6 questions that can help us assess and identify our why:

1.Do you love what you’re doing now? Seems kind of obvious but if you don’t like what you’re doing now, change it. Too many people keep themselves trapped in jobs and situations that they don’t like, all the while complaining about how much they hate their job, life, etc…  Too many people keep themselves trapped in jobs and situations that they don’t like

Complaining about your situation without changing it does nothing to help you find your purpose, it only makes everyone else around you miserable. Conversely, if you really love what you do, then it’s a good indication you are doing something aligned with your bigger purpose. I like to call this your passion. If you’re doing something you love and it doesn’t feel like a chore, lean into it.

Complaining about your situation without changing it does nothing to help you find your purpose”

2. What would you like to do? Do you have something that you’ve always dreamed of doing? Something that when you’re not preoccupied with the mundane of life it always invades your thoughts? When you’ve got spare time you look for ways to do it? This is called your desire. When your passion and desire intersect, that is where you find purpose… But before you rush out to pursue your desires the next question is important…

“When your passion and desire intersect, that is where you find purpose”

3. Can You do what you want to do? We’ve all seen those folks on TV singing competitions, who say singing is their life, they dream about nothing else but singing, but when they open their mouth everyone cringes because they just can’t sing!

Not all desires should be pursued. If it’s not a gift you possess or something in your strength zone, don’t try and do it. You’ll only frustrate yourself… Ask yourself what you are good at. If you’re not sure what your gift is, what do others say that you’re good at? What’s a task or activity that comes easy to you and brings you enjoyment?  That’s where you’ll start to get closer to your strength zone. “Not all desires should be pursued.”

4. Do you know people who do what you want to do? One of the keys to moving into the area of your desires is knowing others who have gone before you. People who can show you the way, can give you insights into the challenges and how to face them. If the answer is no, start by seeking out and building relationship with others who can do what you want to do.

Jim Rohn says: you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Are the people you spend your time with helping you move towards your desires or away from your desires? This is your environment. To discover and go after your purpose you have to create the environment around you that will be conducive to your growth.

Some others ways you can achieve this is by joining a mastermind group, getting a coach or joining a professional organisation related to your passion. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

5. Will you pay the price? As Maxwell says; To go up you must be prepared to give up… Every stage of your growth and development will require a price to be paid in sacrifice. Having a desire and a passion is a start, but it will only really be realised if you are prepared to pay the price required to achieve it. You will have a good indication of your purpose when you know what you’re prepared to sacrifice for.

“You will have a good indication of your purpose when you know what you’re prepared to sacrifice for ”

6. When can you start doing it? It’s one thing to have a passion and even have the drive to make it happen, but until your desire become action it will remain just that; desire. Purpose is tie closely to action, without action your purpose will remain unrealised. Have you started taking steps toward your purpose? If not, when will you start? The things you move towards today will become your legacy for tomorrow. What are you moving towards now? Do you need to change your focus?

Until your desire becomes action it will remain just that; desire #blogpost Discover your purpose”

Your turn: Do you know your why? Post it below. If not, get started today. take yourself through the above the questions and let me know what you discover. Go on, I’ll be here when you get back. Make your start today.

If you’d like help to walk through this process with somebody, contact me for a free coaching session. I’d love to walk you through it.

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3 Tips For Operating With Integrity

The number 1 leadership characteristic for success: integrity.

Find out how integrity can lift or place a lid on your leadership growth… 

While leaders come in all shapes and sizes and every leader needs to work to their strengths, when developing their leadership capacity, it is character not skill that will keep you growing and moving forward. As John Maxwell says; “charisma will get you in the door but character will keep you in the room”.

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So what are some essential characteristics or qualities of a truly great leader? Every writer has their own list of essentials. Some long, some short, but the #1 characteristic that always comes up and will keep coming up in your growth journey is: Integrity…

Integrity: Why does it matter? 

This is a funny one… because although I think most leaders understand and believe that integrity is important, whenever I teach this, it very quickly becomes apparent in a group that your idea of “right” may be quite different to my idea of “right”.

The dictionary defines integrity as: the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. C.S. Lewis puts it this way: Integrity is doing the right thing when no one is watching.

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On one hand it may appear that it’s just basic common sense, but in a culture that is so fluid in it perceptions of right and wrong, moral sense seems to be far less common than we thought. This can be an even bigger challenge a leaders who lack the ability to think critically and is reluctant to stand for any one set of moral values, lest they offend someone in the process.

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So what to do…?

How do we define integrity in a culture that has such fluid moral values. Ultimately this has to come don to the individual. You have to do some hard work on assessing your own values and asking the questions if your values and actions actually convey integrity.

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2 Simple Questions

To simplify the concept I like to assess my integrity by asking myself 2 simple questions:

1. If someone posted my actions and words on Facebook post, would I have to start making excuses to justify my choice, or would it be a non-event? If you have to justify or explain your actions then chances are; you’re skirting the boundaries of integrity.

2. Another way of testing your integrity is to ask “do I need to do this on the quiet?” If you are intuitively doing things privately or secretly to avoid the scrutiny of others, then you’re probably treading on dangerous territory with your integrity.

See, integrity it is less about whether you think what you’re doing is wrong and whether others will perceive what you’re doing as wrong.

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If the perception of others is that you are doing something dodgy, then whether you are or not, it will begin to erode your leadership credibility.

An ancient Jewish teacher suggested that a wise leader will avoid even the appearance of evil.

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So how’s your integrity? Do you need to do some work on how you operate in this space?

3 Tips for operating with integrity:

  1. Deal in Truth. Half-truths always end up tending towards lies and misunderstanding. Make it a habit to always speak honestly and truthfully.
  2. Operate with Transparency. If you have to hide it, it will only lead to dishonesty. Whatever you do, be transparent and accessible to others.
  3. Maintain Accountability. Put people around you that you trust who will call you on your stuff. Give them permission to speak into your life and to challenge your integrity if they have concerns. Then listen to them if they do.

You will only grow personally and professionally to the level that you can build and maintain credibility with others. Your character will win you credibility and keep you in the game long after the fly by nights have disappeared.

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What are your tips for assessing and maintaining credibility in your leadership?

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Are your friends holding you back?

The people your spend the most time with will have a direct influence on your ability to reach your full potential... Are your friends holding you back?

The people your spend the most time with will have a direct influence on your ability to reach your full potential…

Leadership expert Jim Rohn says that you are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with.

Basically what he is saying is that if you look at your life where it is at right now, your finance, the type of job you have, the type of attitudes you have, the way that life is going, you will probably find; the five people you spend the most time in your day actually have similar attitudes, similar values, similar monitory situations, similar job, etc, etc.

As human beings we have a tendency to want to be the same as the people around us and we will subconsciously move ourselves to the level of the people that we spend the most time with.

Well this brings up an interesting thing. If you are looking at your life and you are dissatisfied with where you are at. And you have got dreams to be something more, or achieving more, or go somewhere in your life, a really helpful exercise is to write down those dreams, write down your values, write down your money goals, write down your career aspiration, and then look at the five friends you spend the most time with and do the same thing for them…

Do they same share values as where you want to head, or  are their value slightly different. Do they have same attitudes towards work or the career, maybe their drive, their aspirations, their ambitions… what do they look like compared to your attitude, your ambitions and your aspirations.

What you will find is there will be some who share same values and aspirations and some who don’t. And if you want to actually move forward, what you are going to have to do is; you are going to have readjust the time you spend with the people who perhaps don’t share the attitude and aspirations that you do. I am not saying to cut people out of your life, but sometimes you are going to have re-evaluate the amount of time and the amount of input that certain people have on your future success and aspiration.

You might find that there is some you need to spend more time with and then there are others you need to spend less time with. Because whether you intend it or not, sooner or later, you will become the average of those people you spend the most time with.

So who is important in your life at the moment, who do you spend the most time with? Are they helping you to get where you want to go or they holding you back because they don’t share the same values, ambitions and aspirations that you do.

It is a really helpful exercise that might shock you and it might be little bit scary, but I encourage you to do it. You will find that it has a tremendous impact on where you are heading in your life.

You can lead no matter where you find yourself in life and I just want to encourage you to be brave and take a step towards your future.

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How My Taxi Driver Taught Me Gratitude

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Ancient Greek Philosopher Epicurus said “Don’t spoil what you have by desiring what you don’t have. Because the things you have are the things once have hoped for.”

Gratitude is the essential part of doing life well. When we learn to be thankful for what we have it actually gets us focused on the things that matter in life, it gets us tapped into the source of good in our life.

I was in San Diego yesterday waiting for a car to pick me up for the airport. The car service never arrived and I was running late for the airport… I was frustrated so called a taxi. The  taxi driver turned up and he was happy and amiable, wanting to help and wanting to have a conversation…

So as I sat in the cab on the way to the airport, I started chatting with him… I asked him about his family and he told me that he was from Congo and his family was still stuck back in Africa and he was 10 years without his family. Although he had approval to bring them out to the States, he had not been able to do so because of the corruption and the war in his own country…

Ten years without your family!

You know I have a hard enough time being away from my family for 10 days and I can’t even imagine what that would be like… and all of a sudden the perspective of my own life kicked in. While I was frustrated and annoyed and wishing I had a better experience with my pick up for the airport, here was a man who had far more to complain about, yet he was happy, he was amiable, he is wanting to be positive about life…

It got me thinking about gratitude, how important it is to doing life well and tapping in to the source of good. When we are focused on good we make great choices and we can do more and be more in our lives…

Find something to be grateful for in your life today and thank somebody who makes your day a little easier, do that and you’ll find you enjoy the present far more and spend less time wishing the future would arrive to change everything you’re unhappy with…

I am Tarun Stevenson, reminding you that you can lead well no matter where you are in your life…

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Why We Should Form The Habit of Forgiveness

So I go out this morning to grab a coffee and a bite to eat before I head off to the airport and ordered my coffee and croissant, the coffee comes and it is the wrong coffee. It’s skinny milk instead of full cream milk and it is in a larger cup than I had ordered… and they charged me more for my coffee than I was meant to pay.

Then I get my croissant out and the croissant is cold and I had to go back three or four times with this order…The guys standing behind the counter are really feeling bad and are apologetic.

You know the consumer in me starts to think to myself that I should be really annoyed about this. I paid $10.50 for this croissant and the coffee, which isn’t very good and they did not get my order… but you know these guys feel bad enough as it is. I don’t need to make they day any worse by complaining or getting angry or losing my stuff over a bit of coffee, because really what’s that going to do? It’s going to change my day? It’s certainly not going make their day better…

And it got my thinking…

You know forgiveness, forgiveness is such an important part of doing life well. We can forgive, when we can let go of anger and let go of grudges, let go of bitterness, it helps us to be better. It helps us to do more, helps us to achieve more in our lives… and it’s really not about whether the other person has done the right thing or not. Forgiveness is really about allowing yourself to move on, allowing yourself to still enjoy your existence regardless of what happens to you.

Now I know coffee is a small thing it’s not like some big things that are often very hard to deal within and very hard to process. But the reason I think it is important to practice forgiveness in this small things is because; your small daily habits have a big impact when big events happen. If you are in the habit of forgiving when it is a little thing like a coffee you going to be more likely to default to forgiveness when something really big happens in your life.

But if we form habits of always being complaining, always being angry, always being unsatisfied with what is going on in our lives… or angry with what people have done to us. When the big stuff, the stuff that really matters, actually happens to us… it makes much harder to default to those positive responses.

Now will I go back there again? Probably not. It’s probably not good customer service, but that’s a video for another day, but I just really thought the attitude in the way we respond to little things in our life, make a huge difference for the big stuff in our life.

I am Tarun reminding you that you can lead well no matter where you find yourself.

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How to Enjoy The Journey

Every destination requires a journey. How well you travel can be as important as getting to the destination. 

So I’m at the airport, I’m just about to leave and Honolulu airport has got this cool causeway that’s actually open to the planes so you can watch them! (See Video)

You know I love coming to airports whenever I am travelling somewhere. There is this sense of excitement about where I am going. Whether it’s off on a new adventure or if it’s heading home to see my family as I am now. There’s that sense of excitement of the new destination and the expectancy of what’s going to happen…. But you know almost as much as I love coming to the airport, I hate long plane rides. I’m about to get on a plane trip that is over 10 hours long and I don’t like it! But that’s life, isn’t it?

Sometimes to get to your destination, you’ve got to go through a long journey… 

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Any kind of growth, any kind of development, requires a journey of process. It requires hard slogs, step by step towards where you are going.

The interesting thing about journey’s though is, that is where your real character comes out.

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On a long plane trip, you’re crammed in with other people you don’t know, and it requires patience, it requires tolerance, it requires courtesy. It requires me to eat things I don’t like, it requires me to talk to people I wouldn’t normally talk to… You know there’s all sorts of opportunities for character development that come out on a long journey. Interestingly this is usually your true character emerges when you’re under pressure.

When you’re on the journey towards your destination, that’s when your true character shows. Use that time to grow, use that time to develop your character and internal fortitude, because when you arrive at your destination it’s that character that will carry you through to the next faze of your life.

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You can lead well no matter where you’re at.

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Look forward to talking to you again real soon when I’m on the ground in Australia… Be well.

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4 Tips for Becoming a Person of Influence – #4 Becoming a Listener

Increase your positive impact on others and watch your personal and professional success go off the charts. 

Ok Listen up! This fourth tip of four easy tips from John Maxwell’s teaching on becoming a person of influence, will take a little bit of practice to do well if you’re not in the habit of doing it, but once you do your ability to positively impact others will take off.

If you missed tip 1 go here >>>, tip 2 go here>>> and tip 3 go here >>>

4. Become a Listener

Most people listen with the intent of replying. Don’t believe me? Do a little experiment the next time you talk to somebody and count how many times your mind goes to a story or an experience that you have had that relates to what they are talking about. Or worse, count how many times your mind wanders when someone is talking to you.

The art of becoming a really good listener starts with our ability to suppress the innate (and sometimes very strong…) desire to respond every time somebody talks to us.  Unless you spend time really intently listening to others and actually taking the time to delve beneath the surface of what they are saying, you will struggle to build meaningful connections that give you the permission to speak when it is required.

Most people love talking about themselves (I’m no exception). If you take the time to genuinely listen to others and take an interest in them without trying to jump in with your own reply, they will feel more engaged and connected to you. As a result they will have a greater degree of trust in you and when you need to influence them you will find them more willing to hear you out.

What about you? Are you a good listener or is it something you need to practice? I know I need to be aware of my listening all the time. I love to talk, but have seen fantastic results with others when I’ve learned to listen better.

Did you do the experiment? How did you go? Tell us about your experience it in the comments.

To make it easier for you to learn these tips, I have prepared a FREE tip sheet and 4 short videos that you can watch and start applying in your life immediately. Click here to access your FREE tip sheet and video teaching today and start becoming a person of influence.

If you would like to learn more about effectively growing in your leadership, why not check out our FREE Goal setting guide. See below for details.

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4 Tips for Becoming a Person of Influence – #3 Show Faith in Others

Increase your positive impact on others and watch your personal and professional success go off the charts. 

Alright here it is; tip 3 for becoming a person of influence. If you’ve ever wondered how you can increase your positive impact on other people, then you need to learn how to become a person of influence.

In this post,tip 3 of four easy tips from John Maxwell’s teaching on becoming a person of influence, I want to give you the tip that will enable you to speak into the lives of others and see them rise to the expectations you have for them. A tip so simple you can start applying it straight away, to increase your positive impact on others. If you missed tip 1 go here >>> and tip 2 go here>>>

3. Show Faith in Others

Showing faith in others is all about believing in the potential others, seeing them for what they could be even if they can’t see it for themselves and giving them opportunities to rise to the next level of their growth.

You know, most people don’t believe in themselves and many don’t have someone in their life who believes in them or encourages them to reach the full potential let alone give them opportunities to shine.

When you start seeing others not for who they are but who they could be and give them opportunities to rise to that potential, two things will happen. 1. They will begin to see themselves the way you see them and begin to live up to the potential you encourage them towards. 2. They will begin to open up to you. They will begin to trust and allow you to speak into their life because you show faith in them.

Your ability to influence and impact others positively will grow as you encourage them to grow into their full potential.

A great place to start is to see everybody as a 10/10. No matter where they are in their life journey, get into the habit of seeing the very best in everyone you interact with and focus on who they can be not who they may be.

What about you? Have you had someone who showed faith in you and helped you become the person your are today? Tell us about it in the comments.

To make it easier for you to learn these tips, I have prepared a FREE tip sheet and 4 short videos that you can watch and start applying in your life immediately. Click here to access your FREE tip sheet and video teaching today and start becoming a person of influence.

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If you would like to learn more about effectively growing in your leadership, why not check out our FREE Goal setting guide. See below for details.

https://leadcommunicategrow.com/free-goal-setting-guide/

5 Steps to Set Goals that Work