Personal Development – Page 2

July 15, 2016March 29, 2021

Why We Should Form The Habit of Forgiveness

So I go out this morning to grab a coffee and a bite to eat before I head off to the airport and ordered my coffee and croissant, the coffee comes and it is the wrong coffee. It’s skinny milk instead of full cream milk and it is in a larger cup than I had ordered… and they charged me more for my coffee than I was meant to pay.

Then I get my croissant out and the croissant is cold and I had to go back three or four times with this order…The guys standing behind the counter are really feeling bad and are apologetic.

You know the consumer in me starts to think to myself that I should be really annoyed about this. I paid $10.50 for this croissant and the coffee, which isn’t very good and they did not get my order… but you know these guys feel bad enough as it is. I don’t need to make they day any worse by complaining or getting angry or losing my stuff over a bit of coffee, because really what’s that going to do? It’s going to change my day? It’s certainly not going make their day better…

And it got my thinking…

You know forgiveness, forgiveness is such an important part of doing life well. We can forgive, when we can let go of anger and let go of grudges, let go of bitterness, it helps us to be better. It helps us to do more, helps us to achieve more in our lives… and it’s really not about whether the other person has done the right thing or not. Forgiveness is really about allowing yourself to move on, allowing yourself to still enjoy your existence regardless of what happens to you.

Now I know coffee is a small thing it’s not like some big things that are often very hard to deal within and very hard to process. But the reason I think it is important to practice forgiveness in this small things is because; your small daily habits have a big impact when big events happen. If you are in the habit of forgiving when it is a little thing like a coffee you going to be more likely to default to forgiveness when something really big happens in your life.

But if we form habits of always being complaining, always being angry, always being unsatisfied with what is going on in our lives… or angry with what people have done to us. When the big stuff, the stuff that really matters, actually happens to us… it makes much harder to default to those positive responses.

Now will I go back there again? Probably not. It’s probably not good customer service, but that’s a video for another day, but I just really thought the attitude in the way we respond to little things in our life, make a huge difference for the big stuff in our life.

I am Tarun reminding you that you can lead well no matter where you find yourself.

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July 8, 2016March 29, 2021

How to Enjoy The Journey

Every destination requires a journey. How well you travel can be as important as getting to the destination.

So I’m at the airport, I’m just about to leave and Honolulu airport has got this cool causeway that’s actually open to the planes so you can watch them! (See Video)

You know I love coming to airports whenever I am travelling somewhere. There is this sense of excitement about where I am going. Whether it’s off on a new adventure or if it’s heading home to see my family as I am now. There’s that sense of excitement of the new destination and the expectancy of what’s going to happen…. But you know almost as much as I love coming to the airport, I hate long plane rides. I’m about to get on a plane trip that is over 10 hours long and I don’t like it! But that’s life, isn’t it?

Sometimes to get to your destination, you’ve got to go through a long journey…

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Any kind of growth, any kind of development, requires a journey of process. It requires hard slogs, step by step towards where you are going.

The interesting thing about journey’s though is, that is where your real character comes out.

it's the journey's where your real character comes out. Share on X

On a long plane trip, you’re crammed in with other people you don’t know, and it requires patience, it requires tolerance, it requires courtesy. It requires me to eat things I don’t like, it requires me to talk to people I wouldn’t normally talk to… You know there’s all sorts of opportunities for character development that come out on a long journey. Interestingly this is usually your true character emerges when you’re under pressure.

When you’re on the journey towards your destination, that’s when your true character shows. Use that time to grow, use that time to develop your character and internal fortitude, because when you arrive at your destination it’s that character that will carry you through to the next faze of your life.

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You can lead well no matter where you’re at.

Please share this video and blog if you know someone that needs to hear it and give me some kind of reaction… a thumbs up or thumbs down or comment.

Look forward to talking to you again real soon when I’m on the ground in Australia… Be well.

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June 19, 2016March 29, 2021

4 Tips for Becoming a Person of Influence – #4 Becoming a Listener

Increase your positive impact on others and watch your personal and professional success go off the charts.

Ok Listen up! This fourth tip of four easy tips from John Maxwell’s teaching on becoming a person of influence, will take a little bit of practice to do well if you’re not in the habit of doing it, but once you do your ability to positively impact others will take off.

If you missed tip 1 go here >>>, tip 2 go here>>> and tip 3 go here >>>

4. Become a Listener

Most people listen with the intent of replying. Don’t believe me? Do a little experiment the next time you talk to somebody and count how many times your mind goes to a story or an experience that you have had that relates to what they are talking about. Or worse, count how many times your mind wanders when someone is talking to you.

The art of becoming a really good listener starts with our ability to suppress the innate (and sometimes very strong…) desire to respond every time somebody talks to us. Unless you spend time really intently listening to others and actually taking the time to delve beneath the surface of what they are saying, you will struggle to build meaningful connections that give you the permission to speak when it is required.

Most people love talking about themselves (I’m no exception). If you take the time to genuinely listen to others and take an interest in them without trying to jump in with your own reply, they will feel more engaged and connected to you. As a result they will have a greater degree of trust in you and when you need to influence them you will find them more willing to hear you out.

What about you? Are you a good listener or is it something you need to practice? I know I need to be aware of my listening all the time. I love to talk, but have seen fantastic results with others when I’ve learned to listen better.

Did you do the experiment? How did you go? Tell us about your experience it in the comments.

To make it easier for you to learn these tips, I have prepared a FREE tip sheet and 4 short videos that you can watch and start applying in your life immediately. Click here to access your FREE tip sheet and video teaching today and start becoming a person of influence.

If you would like to learn more about effectively growing in your leadership, why not check out our FREE Goal setting guide. See below for details.

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June 18, 2016March 29, 2021

4 Tips for Becoming a Person of Influence – #3 Show Faith in Others

Increase your positive impact on others and watch your personal and professional success go off the charts.

Alright here it is; tip 3 for becoming a person of influence. If you’ve ever wondered how you can increase your positive impact on other people, then you need to learn how to become a person of influence.

In this post,tip 3 of four easy tips from John Maxwell’s teaching on becoming a person of influence, I want to give you the tip that will enable you to speak into the lives of others and see them rise to the expectations you have for them. A tip so simple you can start applying it straight away, to increase your positive impact on others. If you missed tip 1 go here >>> and tip 2 go here>>>

3. Show Faith in Others

Showing faith in others is all about believing in the potential others, seeing them for what they could be even if they can’t see it for themselves and giving them opportunities to rise to the next level of their growth.

You know, most people don’t believe in themselves and many don’t have someone in their life who believes in them or encourages them to reach the full potential let alone give them opportunities to shine.

When you start seeing others not for who they are but who they could be and give them opportunities to rise to that potential, two things will happen. 1. They will begin to see themselves the way you see them and begin to live up to the potential you encourage them towards. 2. They will begin to open up to you. They will begin to trust and allow you to speak into their life because you show faith in them.

Your ability to influence and impact others positively will grow as you encourage them to grow into their full potential.

A great place to start is to see everybody as a 10/10. No matter where they are in their life journey, get into the habit of seeing the very best in everyone you interact with and focus on who they can be not who they may be.

What about you? Have you had someone who showed faith in you and helped you become the person your are today? Tell us about it in the comments.

If you would like to learn more about effectively growing in your leadership, why not check out our FREE Goal setting guide. See below for details.

https://leadcommunicategrow.com/free-goal-setting-guide/

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June 17, 2016March 29, 2021

4 Tips for Becoming a Person of Influence – #2 Become a Nurturer of Others

Increase your positive impact on others and watch your personal and professional success go off the charts.

If you’ve ever wondered how you can increase your positive impact on other people, then you need to learn how to become a person of influence.

In this post I want to give you tip 2 of four easy tips from John Maxwell’s teaching on becoming a person of influence that you can start applying straight away, to increase your positive impact on others. If you missed tip 1 go here >>>

2. Become a Nurturer of Others

Becoming a nurturer is two fold. First it is about showing others respect, regardless of if they deserve it or not. In a world where respect is so often withheld until others show respect to us, being a nurturer and showing respect to others even if they don’t deserve it will make you stand out like the proverbial sore thumb.

When you can show the people you work with, lead or work for that you respect them not for what they do for you, but because they are a fellow human being that deserves to be treated with value and dignity, people will respond to you positively.

The second aspect of being a nurturer s showing others that you genuinely care about them. Take an interest in their life, find out what’s important to them and how can you add value or show care to others without expecting anything in return.

With so many in life out for only what can benefit them, your genuine care respect of others will give you a level of influence and positive impact on others lives that you would have never believed possible before.

Most people start with the question what’s in it for me or what can you do for me? When you flip that and start asking how can I add value to you, people will respond with enthusiasm and genuine engagement to you. What’s more they will often respond in turn by wanting to assist you in what matters for you.

What’s one way you can show genuine respect and care to somebody in your sphere of influence. Share it in the comments below.

If you would like to learn more about effectively growing in your leadership, why not check out our FREE Goal setting guide. See below for details.

https://leadcommunicategrow.com/free-goal-setting-guide/

5 Steps to Set Goals that Work

June 17, 2016March 29, 2021

4 Tips for Becoming a Person of Influence – #1 How to Have Integrity

Increase your positive impact on others and watch your personal and professional success go off the charts.

Have you ever wondered how you can increase your positive impact on other people?

Maybe you’re trying to get a promotion but can’t seem to get anyone to notice. Perhaps you’re a manager and you’re struggling to connect with your team or you’re a leader trying to inspire others but it just feels like pushing bricks up a hill.

The great John Maxwell says; Leadership is Influence, nothing more, nothing less. If you want to increase your impact on others, you need to learn how to become a person of influence. Everything else in your journey of leadership and personal development pivots off this core principal…

Become a person of influence and you will see your personal and organisational success go off the charts… I guarantee it!

Managers will see their employees respond with new enthusiasm
Coaches will see players/clients blossom
Salespeople will break records
Leaders will reach more people
Parents will connect with their children on a deeper level
To help you increase your positive impact on others I have put together a FREE tip sheet and 4 short videos to get you started on your development of influence.
So how do you do it? Become a person of Influence?

Many a book has been written on the topic, so I’m not going to try and re-create them but for those of you just getting started in this realm, I want to give you four easy tips from John Maxwell’s teaching on the topic that you can start applying straight away, to increase your positive impact on others. You don’t have to be an expert, just pick one thing and start making the change..

1. Integrity.
The first key to becoming a person of influence is to become a person of good character and integrity. Integrity is choosing to do right even when nobody’s looking. Conducting yourself in a way that even if those around you are willing to; let it slide, over look the details, blur the line a little (“cos nobody cares or nobody will notice…”) choose to be the person that doesn’t.

Initially people around you may think you’re being a stiff or square, but very quickly you will start standing out, people will notice you for your high moral character and unwillingness to compromise on standards of integrity.

You will also begin to build trust with those around you. They will know they can count on you to do what you say you will do, when you say you will do it. No exceptions.

Start on the little things, the things that most people wouldn’t notice or even care about. As you develop the habit in the small stuff, you will find that it comes very naturally with the big stuff that everyone notices.

Become a person of integrity and watch your influence and respect with others increase.

What do you think? Comment below and tell me about one small area of your life that you think you can grow your integrity.

To read about tip 2 click here >>>

February 8, 2016March 29, 2021

How to Keep Your Goals on Track.

This week I was a guest on the Changeability podcast hosted by Julian and Kathryn from Brilliant LIving HQ. We had a fantastic chat about goals, why so many people struggle to achieve their goals and what you can do about keeping your goals on track.

Some of the topics we talked about were:
Why you can give up on your goals so quickly
How important mindset is to achieving your goals
How to stay on track, re-engage or maintain enthusiasm and motivation to achieve your goals
How to learn from your failures
The value of short term, measurable, incremental goals to achieving your bigger vision for life
The satellite navigation (GPS) goals analogy
Why the SMART goals acronym is helpful if it’s helpful to you
The stuff psychologists are talking about now to retrain our minds
The link between self-esteem and goals
The mistakes we make around money goals
Turning what helps you grow into a habit
And more ?

If you would like to learn more about effectively growing in your leadership, why not check out our FREE Goal setting guide. See below for details.

https://leadcommunicategrow.com/free-goal-setting-guide/

5 Steps to Set Goals that Work

Listen to the podcast and leave a comment below to let me know what you got out of it.

January 24, 2016March 29, 2021

How to Avoid Burnout as an Influencer

I was recently interviewed by Dave Jackson from the School of Podcasting. What was planned to be a conversation about becoming a person of influence turned into much more. We ended up talking about a range of helpful topics for start-ups and entrepreneurs. Some of the other topics we covered were; goal setting, maintaining motivation and avoiding burnout. It was a great chat and David also has some very helpful tips on podcasting if you’re that way inclined. You can listen to the interview here. Play Interview >>>

Below is Dave’s summary of our conversation. You can check out Dave’s blog here.

Avoiding Burnout

When you lose hope it’s a very dark place to be and want to quit. Business without purpose can lead to you throwing in the towel. We look at where we want to be, and then look at where we are, and instead of feeling gratitude for what you have, you get discouraged. You have to value your current situation so your attitude can stay positive and allow you to make it to the next step. An App that Dave has been using is Gratitude Journal .

Take A Look At Yourself

Look at last year and figure out what worked, and what could be done better. What experiences help you grow more? When we develop small habits they can lead to giant success.

Goals

Be sure to have specific goals, and make sure the goals push you out of your comfort zone. Make sure they are realistic. Instead of focusing on the goal, focus on the actions that will lead to achieving the successful goal.

Instead of focusing on our stats, focus on the actions that will lead to more downloads.

Anything of value takes time and effort. A garden of weeds takes no time or effort. Your successful podcast will require time and effort, but it will be worth it.

Becoming a Person of Influence

Operate with integrity
Help other people, and deliver value.
Listen to people, and be interested in other people.

Let me know what you got out of the podcast. Comment below. Share it with a friend you think needs to hear it.

January 3, 2016March 29, 2021

How to Set Goals and Stick to Them

Recently Dr. Jin from Healthy Positive Lifestyle Podcast interviewed me about setting New Year’s resolutions and goal settings. We had a fascinating conversation covering a whole range of reasons about why 92% of people don’t stick to their New Year’s resolutions and only 8% ever realise their goal setting for the new year.

If you, like many have been setting goals for the coming year and wondering how you can ensure you actually stick to them this year. Have a listen to our conversation and then download the FREE resources to help you get the most out of your goal setting and New Year’s resolutions in 2016.

Now it’s your turn: Action steps

Share with a friend who you think needs help in this area
Comment below; share with me one of your goals for this year and the steps you are going to take to make sure you achieve it.

If you would like to learn more about effectively growing in your leadership, why not check out our FREE Goal setting guide. See below for details.

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July 1, 2015March 29, 2021

5 Tips for Achieving, Despite the Pain.

Why avoiding pain might be holding you back and how learning to push through will set you up for success…

I’m a teacher by profession and, one of the most disturbing trends I have observed among students today is their aversion to attempting or pushing through anything that might appear remotely difficult or challenging. On an almost daily basis I would get call outs (as the Behavior support teacher) to attend children who had run out of the classroom…

Why?

“…because I didn’t want to do the work…” or “it was too hard so I didn’t want to try it…”.

All too often I will ask; “Did you look at it? Did you have a go? Did you ask for help?” and the answer is almost always the same; “No! I just know it’ll be hard so I’m not going to try…”

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No, I don’t blame the children, I believe children are a product of the environment they are raised in. Sadly we have school systems and parents that seem totally committed to helping children avoid all pain or discomfort at any cost. Tragically though, children raised in this way frequently turn into adults that are equally unwilling to do the work required to achieve their dreams or be the best they could possibly be.

The simple fact of life is; life is challenging. Period! To achieve anything in life always requires a level of pain, discomfort and adversity while you’re developing the expertise to reach your goal. Just ask any athlete, musician or academic who is at the top of their game how much “work”, “effort” and “determination” had to go into getting them to the top.

The expert in anything was once a beginner - Helen Hayes Share on X

If you have dreams and goals to achieve beyond your present place in life then it’s going to take some persistence to push through the pain of learning. It’s not a question of if you will experience adversity, it’s how you face it that will determine your success in the end.

5 tips for overcoming achieving through adversity:

1. Know where you are heading.

I don't care how much power, brilliance or energy you have, if you don't harness it and focus it on a specific target, and hold it there you're never going to accomplish as much as your ability warrants. ~Zig Ziglar Share on X

Often the biggest blocker to pushing through the pain of learning is first knowing where you’re heading and taking the first step. Unless you have somewhere to aim then understanding the purpose and point of your challenges will be lost.

What sort of person do you want to become? What do you want to achieve? Hold that in your mind when the challenge of getting there becomes too much.

2. Take the first step

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Often the fear of failure can prevent us from ever taking the first step. Find one task you can do to move you forward towards your goal. Never starting is always worse than having a go and failing.

Don’t try do it all in a day. Just take one step closer, then another, then another…. soon your stride will become more confident if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

3. You don’t have to like it, you just have to do it!

I hated every minute of training, but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.' -Muhammad Ali Share on X

It’s the daily grind, personal discipline, practice and time spent in repetitious training that takes you forward. You don’t have to like it, but to achieve, you have to learn how to stay committed to it. I’m not a morning person but I realized that to move to the next level in my development I had to become one. So every morning when that alarm goes off at 4:45am, I remind myself why I’m doing it and what the reward will be at the other end. I also give myself a small reward for getting out of bed each day; I make myself a cup of chai.

Keep your goal in focus, remind yourself of the reward at the other end of the pain and give your self a small achievable reward for turning up each day. Very quickly it will become habit and you will start doing it with out a thought.

Check out this video: The life of an Entrepreneur in 90 seconds. It illustrates this point well.

4. Learn from your mistakes.

One of the secrets of life is to make stepping stones out of stumbling blocks. Jack Penn Share on X

Set-backs, losses, and disappointments are a given in any endeavour. They can either become a tombstone and cause you to give up or your can learn, regroup and keep going. Those who learn from their setbacks almost always come through stronger than before. Life is learning and growth is pain.

3 simple questions that can help you process and learn from setbacks are:

What went wrong? Stop doing it
What did I do well? Keep doing it
What could make it better next time? Try something new

5. Be the last one standing.

Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go. -William Feather Share on X

Too often people give up on their dreams just before they have a break through. It’s frequently the case that those who succeed weren’t better than the others they started with, they just hung in long after everyone else quit.

Yes, you need to know when to quit sometimes, but it is equally important to know when to keep going. Find where your Passion, Skill, Income and the Needs of Others align. It is there you will find you purpose. Stay in that zone and keep going. If the activity takes you out of that zone, re-adjust. If you’ve just hit a rough spot but you’re still in your sweet spot, don’t quit!

Your Turn:

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Need Help? If you’d like help to clarify your direct and map out a plan to reach your goals, book in a FREE coaching session with me. I’d love to help you get on your path to success.

If you would like to learn more about effectively growing in your leadership, why not check out our FREE Goal setting guide. See below for details.

https://leadcommunicategrow.com/free-goal-setting-guide/

5 Steps to Set Goals that Work